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Too bad we didn’t have a full hour to really get in there.
I had about three anecdotes about clients lying about their age that I didn’t get a chance to use.1) My 54-year-old male client who had electric chemistry with a woman on a first date.
And my gut reaction was: “That’s gross.” Then she told me about how all her girlfriends will get together and sleep over at their house, where this wealthy older man “spoils” all these attractive women, 15 or more years younger than him.
One of my oldest friends (not in an age sense; in a friendship-length sense) is female. And I just found out recently that one of her best friends who is our age (35-ish) is married to a guy who is 50-plus.
Recently, Erika — who is also a dating expert for JDate, the author of “Love at First Site” and a syndicated columnist on dating — wrote an article about the ageism she sees among her online dating clients.
What she wrote piqued our interest, so we checked in with her by phone to learn more.
When asked how old she was, she said “Let’s just say I’m in my sixties”.
They never would have met had she told the truth up front.2) My 71-year-old female client who is on a crew team but has never confessed her age, because she doesn’t want to feel “different” than everyone else.
In my experience as a coach, people assume that others their own age aren’t as in shape, as financially successful as younger people. But you know, everyone ages, everyone gets wrinkles, everyone has baggage. They have no problem telling me, I want a woman 20 years younger than I am.She likes fitting in and sees no need to call attention to her age.3) Just yesterday, my 44-year-old client, who, upon hearing about my upcoming CBS appearance, started to rail against guys who lie about their age. So while I would never go and call myself an “advocate” of lying, I would say that we should reserve judgment.Yet when we logged onto her old JDate profile, she audibly gasped. There’s a difference between a serial fabricator and a woman who is insecure that telling the truth will lead to age discrimination. Is the whole “fibbing your age” thing a blanket recommendation or just for women/men who may want to start a family again or who feel they are being wrongly discriminated against because of their age? I guess I’m okay with “weeding out” the guys who want to have babies.When the husband graduated college, the wife was in first grade.Chew on that, outraged people who might feel like debating this.