Dating and marriage customs in afghanistan
The men then make enquiries about the character and general reputation of the groom and complete the process of selection.
The bride’s father then, communicates his family’s interest in the marriage between the children to the groom’s family.
The groom’s family then agrees upon the ‘mahr’ which is Quranic direction but not price for the girl.
It generally consists of livestock, property and money.
The groom is also expected to bear the wedding expenses.
If the groom cannot afford to bear the expenses, he agrees to live with his future father in law and serve him till the debt is paid.
If the communication evokes interest in the groom’s family, a formal proposal of marriage is made by the latter to the father of the bride.
When the proposal is formally accepted, the bride’s family will host a party to symbolize the acceptance and underline the fact that the expenses of the bride from date of engagement will be borne by the groom’s family.
The women consult with other members of the family or community and identify the grooms who could be a suitable match for the girl.
The groom and his family must finance the bride money for purchasing her jewelry, clothes and other trousseau.
They may also provide carpets, dishes and other household items to the bride.
The two parties then discuss matters of dowry as part of Afghan marriage customs.
These could include discussions on amount of jewelry the bride will be given, the expenses of the wedding and other necessities that may be pledged by the groom’s family.