Dating ready to move on
I didn’t want anyone to think that my dating reflected negatively on my love for my wife, or that I was “over it.”But ultimately the decision came down to me.Whether others judged it appropriate or not, I felt I was ready to date.That was just a side effect of her caring, nurturing nature.
Whether I’d waited 2 years or 20, eventually I’d have felt guilty and have needed to process it.Having children simplifies the problem of how to handle it.Leslie will never stop being their mother despite her passing.Though wedding pictures might get stored away, the family pictures are reminders of their mother and her love for them and need to stay up.Just as I don’t shy away from talking to the kids about their mother, I also don’t apologize for discussing Leslie with dates (I mean, not on the first date, mind you). Still, I probably should clean and organize that nightstand one of these days. Instead, it’s actively remembering her and deciding how best to move forward while still respecting that shared past.