Dating two years no proposal
And she doesn’t press him either: “I feel scared to ask why.
Maybe I’m afraid of what the answer might be.” Abby and her boyfriend have shared major life events, including buying a home together, going on vacations, and adopting a dog.
Out of fascination and, perhaps, fear, I knew I had to learn how and why she chooses to stay in this relationship, despite her obvious desire and his obvious reluctance to get married. He was one year younger than her but she knew right away that she “didn’t want to be with anyone else.” Still it wasn’t until their mid-20s, several years into their relationship, that she started thinking about wedding bells, though it seemed like she was the only one.
“He has never come out and said he doesn’t want to get married.
Yet society puts a stigma on those of us who aren’t married, as friends and family just add to the stress with constant inquiries: “What’s wrong with you? ” I am deeply familiar with this line of questioning. If we are in an otherwise happy, fulfilling, and committed relationship, is there still something bad or unhealthy about it?
After five years of dating, I told my boyfriend that if he didn’t propose by Christmas, we were over.
At the time, I considered this less a threat and more a way to expedite the inevitable—marriage, family, an otherwise perfect union.
I think after maybe about five more years, I would just be okay with not being married somehow. The endgame for me is to be with him no matter what...
I have never considered ending things and never will.” To Abby, her boyfriend is more important than a wedding, a marriage, and a piece of paper that says they’re legally bound. “Besides this one thing, we have a very fulfilled relationship.